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This is NOT a happy post

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In fact, I deliberated for a long time before finally deciding to write it.  And three seconds after I publish, I’ll probably regret it.  My blog posts are normally light and positive for two reasons: One, I don’t think anyone visits my blog in order to become depressed (or to hear me defend myself from negative comments: bor-ring!).  Two, I am a happy-go-lucky person who is in a good mood 99% of the time (I credit the chocolate for that), so, really, my posts are just a reflection of my disposition.  But I feel like I have to say something today. Sorry in advance for being so negative.

Anonymous comments do not bother me.

So why do I keep feeling the need to write posts and faq answers defending myself and my diet?  It’s because even though I really don’t care what a few sick individuals think of me, I want the general population that reads my blog to know that it is possible to be a healthy vegan.  Plus, I take pride in the fact that I keep myself healthy, so I don’t want people to get the wrong message (or worse, use me as inspiration to start a dangerous diet to get thin).

Honestly, I’ve heard the “You’re too skinny, you’re anorexic, eat a doughnut” comments so often that they’re like background noise by now.  Yes, I would much rather people think I look pretty in my pictures than skinny.  And gosh I’m envious of the bloggers who can just post away any pictures of themselves—even bathing suit shots—without worrying people will say or think something mean.

I know it’s suspicious; yes I have a lot of the traits of someone with an eating disorder, such as being vegan, being skinny, liking healthy foods and nutrition, and loving to run.  But I became vegan due to my love of animals and my resistance to contribute money to their suffering in factory farms.  (More on that in My Path to Veganism.)  And I developed an interest in healthy eating because of my veganism; my mother forced me to educate myself about nutrition before she’d allow me to go veg, back when I was a teenager.

So how do I know I don’t have an eating disorder?

I don’t restrict my food intake in any way, shape, or form.  I call myself a food hedonist: Providing it’s available, I eat what I’m truly craving.  Always.  I never deprive myself of my favorite foods or cravings, nor will I ever eat something I don’t love just because it’s supposedly good for me.  (I pass on wheatgrass!) My philosophy is that one shouldn’t have to choose between good health and good taste; you can have your cake and eat it too!

And I just recently had a yearly physical, with blood tests and all.  The results came back in a healthy range, proving that it IS possible to eat a vegan diet without suffering from anemia or low protein levels.  So although I hear from anonymous commenters that I am definitely anorexic, my doctor says that I’m not.  Whom would you choose to believe?

Of course I would love it if peoples’ first thought, upon seeing me, was: “Gosh she’s so pretty,” not “Gosh she’s so skinny.”  But it doesn’t really matter, because once people get to know me, they stop seeing skinny and start seeing person.  Therefore, the comments from people I don’t even know do not upset me in the slightest (except that I’m sad to know it gives people pleasure to waste their time trying to make others as miserable as they obviously are).

I think I’ve rambled more than enough.

If you’re really bored and want more info, read this post: Hello from CCK.

Anonymous comments do not bother me. Except that’s not entirely true… which brings me to the real reason I’ve written this rubbish novel of a post.  On a post from a few days ago, I received the first-ever comment to upset me.  Yes, anonymous commenter, you read that right: You upset me. I hope this news makes you happy, because then at least one of us got something good out of your malicious words.

Basically, the commenter accused me of fabricating the entire Operation Chocolate-Covered Kindness as a way to make money for myself.  The fact that anyone—even someone obviously not in a healthy state (the commenter admits to an eating disorder)—would believe I’d do something so horrible made me want to cry. (Should I be publicly admitting this? It’s probably making the girl feel even better about herself.)

Besides the fact that fabricating the charity drive would be a disgusting thing to do, it would be a pretty stupid thing to do as well: I don’t know what non-bloggers imagine, but blogging doesn’t make tons of money!  Ask any blogger (ok, maybe not Perez Hilton-big), and he or she will tell you that for the amount of time and effort one puts into blogging, the monetary payback is not much at all.  Therefore, if I were interested only in myself and making money, I’d spend my blogging time doing something—anything—else.

I figured if I was blogging anyway, the charity drive would be a fun way to raise a bit of cash and publicity for a worthy cause with which not many people are familiar.  Sure, it wouldn’t be much, but the victims in Darfur and other such areas need as much help as possible, and so I want to do what I can.

It really sucks that I was trying to do a good thing, with only good intentions, and someone managed to put a negative spin on it and cause me to worry that other people might feel the same way, thinking the whole thing is a scam to make money. I guess I have to realize that it doesn’t really matter what anonymous thinks.  All that matters is where the money is going: to people in desperate need; to people who don’t have the luxury of eating fun foods like snickerdoodle oatmeal or dark chocolate peanut butter; to people who can’t walk out of their homes (if they even have homes) without fearing for their lives.

As I said, I’ll probably regret publishing this post. But at the moment, I just had to put my true thoughts out there.  Anonymous commenters: You can criticize my weight and diet until you are blue in the face and I won’t care.  Go ahead; have fun. But please don’t criticize my attempts to try and make the world a better place.

And now back to the happy, Energizer Bunny CCK.  I promise more uplifting, fun posts in the future.

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Katie is the baker, photographer, and author of the popular blog Chocolate-Covered Katie. Her favorite food is chocolate, and she believes in eating a balanced diet that includes dessert every single day. More about Katie—> 

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  1. Jennifer says:

    I think you’re pretty! If I’m reading your blog and there’s a picture of you and somebody’s around, I usually make them come and see how pretty you are!

    And, on a more serious note, I inherently trust you about where the money is going. It never occurred to me to think any different.

  2. Jenny R. says:

    oh my goodness…Katie you made me cry 🙁 I know how mean people can be. I’ve been called ‘anorexic’ and ‘gross’ so many times. I don’t think people understand that it’s not ok to make fun of people no matter what the ‘trait’ is that they are making fun of. I mean it’s considered taboo to call someone ‘fat’ but really by saying someone is gross for being skinny is really just the same thing. I think you’re sooo pretty and you exude health. You can see it in your eyes and’re glowing. Can I give you a virtual hug? lol
    I guess there are just some misguided people out there with trust issues and insecurities. You have an enormous heart to be doing all this charity stuff and I’ll just click click click away extra to make up for those meanies out there. 😉 Love ya girly!

  3. you go girl! you are beautiful inside and out, and you should never have to defend yourself against negative comments like that. once again, youre the one who comes out on top in this situation because you addressed it honestly and gracefully. you have the support+friendship of so many people in the blog community that those few “anonymous” commenters don’t mean a thing. keep smiling and doing great things! 🙂

  4. taleoftwovegans says:

    Aw Katie, I’m so sorry people can be so mean. 🙁 For the record, you’re not pretty – you’re drop dead gorgeous. If you weren’t at the proper weight for you, then you would LOOK unhealthy, and that is so NOT the case – like Jenny R. said, you glow and exude health! I’m sure it is SO obvious to your regular readers that you have an extremely healthy relationship with food – which is so important, especially considering that we live in a society where unhealthy approaches to food is normal. Keep being wonderful! 🙂 -Eve

  5. *Andrea* says:

    i’m so sorry katie! you are such a sweet girl. it is so evident in your posts on your hobbies (helping out at various charities), your genuine love for animals, your humor, your zest for life 😉 although i do not have a blog and can’t understand what you go through posting everything out there for those to judge, i admire you sooooo much! DO NOT REGRET THIS POST! it is honest and it let’s us know the truthabout you. i think you are gorgeous, which has nothing to do with your size. you have pretty eyes and a smile that makes me smile 🙂 not to mention gorgeous nails haha. anyways, take the comment with a grain of salt – this girl is in a deep deep depression, suffering from an eating disorder, and probably a little jealous about how popular your blog is and how SUCCESSFUL of a person you are.

  6. Chrissie says:

    Hi Katie!
    I just wanted to agree with the other commentors above! You are very slim, very pretty, and clearly, both from your writing and photographs, enjoy your life in a way that you couldn’t if you were in fact suffering from an eating disorder. It sounds to me like your anonymous commentor is jealous of the fact that you are so much healthier and happier than she is – sad for her, but don’t let it make you miserable!
    I don’t think anyone actually reading your blog could really believe you’d be trying to scam your readers with Operation Chocolate Covered Kindness. You are clearly capable of compassion that the commentor in question can’t even recognise, let alone understand.
    Keep up the good work! Your posts always make me smile (and sometimes drool – you’re getting very good at the food porn with those Fudge Babies!)

  7. Beth S. says:

    You are fantastic for doing a charity drive. You are inspiring and beautiful! Don’t get discouraged!

  8. LZ says:

    Wow, Katie, this was such a strongly written post and it obviously took a lot of courage for you to put this out there–but I think it was right for you to do so! Even on a blog, it’s not possible to be happy and positive *all* the time, and there are negative issues that must be brought to the surface. What that anonymous girl said was terribly mean, but your post reflects on it in such a controlled, calm manner, and that only shows what a genuinely good person you are. You have such good intentions, and I have no doubt you’d ever lie about where your charity money goes. You are one of the most kind and considerate writers, and that is why I read every one of your posts on my Google Reader, even if I don’t comment all the time. Along the lines of what someone mentioned above, for every negative person who picks on you because they have nothing better to do, there are many, many more who appreciate your posts, your positive attitude, your discipline, and your consideration. So just keep on doing what you’re doing, because you’re so awesome.

  9. Cassie says:

    katie, don’t even pay attention to ppl like that. they obviously have no idea what they’re talking about. you are a beautiful person and anyone who reads your blog can see that. criticizing someone for their small size is exactly the same as criticizing someone for their large size. either way, it’s hurtful. i’ve been on both sides of the spectrum and the only way to get over it is to accept yourself unconditionally and recognize that your opinion is the ONLY one that counts in this life. some people make rude comments because they’re jealous and can’t accept themselves as they are. love yourself and remember that we all love you too! 🙂

  10. Precious pretty Katie, I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again. Those of us that know your kind heart know that you would NEVER EVER fabricate some kind of false charity drive – that comment was way out of line.

    Know you are so loved in Nashville. Me, CD, and my brother are 3 of your biggest fans.

    Love you much!

  11. Little Bookworm says:

    I think Operation Chocolate-Covered Kindness is a great idea. 🙂 I also wanted to let you know that I think your oatmeal recipes are great – the banana brulee one is fantastic!

  12. Meg says:

    Wow. I can’t believe someone would even think of saying that. What an absolute idiot. I hope you know how many people are on your side, Katie. You’re one of the most beautiful people I’ve ever ‘met’, inside AND out.

    Love you!

  13. shelby says:

    I really wish everyone could see what I see in you. A stunningly beautiful, healthy, good-hearted, caring, sweetheart, and just a beautiful person all around. Do not ever let anyone tell you otherwise!! Who cares what people say? As long as you know it’s not true, and your good friends who really care for you know it’s not true, screw them! I hope you feel better Katie, your smile is too beautiful to be covered with a frown 🙂

  14. candice says:

    Katie, I can’t believe someone would try to accuse of doing something that is so obviously untrue. You even mentioned in the “Chocolate-Covered Kindness” page that Foodbuzz will only pay you a tiny bit of money per click, and from your other posts, anyone can deduce that you are truly committed to the charity work that you do. The people who don’t get that are either refusing to believe it or posting to get you worked up. … I’m going to go click around now. ><

    By the way, just organizing this charity drive makes me believe you're beautiful. That takes heart, not thinness. 🙂

  15. Anne says:

    *click* *click* *click*

    Please do NOT let her ruin your mood for one more second, she is definitely, completely and utterly not worth it.

    As runninwriter said in that post: I’m sure those who benefit from the Enough Project are throwing their arms in the air in disgust.

    So, I’m off to do some clicking. Especially for Tracey.

  16. Heather says:

    I hate that you have to defend your lifestyle, your beliefs, your diet, your love of running, etc. all because of your genetics. It’s truly sad. I don’t think ANYONE – skinny or fat – should be made to feel guilty about their weight. I’m sorry you have to do that. You’re beautiful, awesome, positive and inspiring.

  17. Steph says:

    don’t listen to anyone who tries to bring you down Katie. you’re a beautiful person both inside and out. you never appear anything but genuine on your blog and I don’t understand how anyone could go so low as to criticize someone fighting for a good cause. keep your chin up- there are so many people on here who support you! 🙂

  18. elise says:

    girlfriend keep your head up and know that those (anonymous) losers have nothing better going on in their miserable lives- so they have to put you down. you are fabulous and everything you are doing is great. so flash em the finger and move on. the rest of us know you are a healthy thang with the best intentions. xxx

  19. mihl says:

    I can understand that you are upset. How can people who don’t know you at all judge and accuse you like that. I really don’t get it. Your blog is awesome and so are you.

  20. Even though you may regret this post later, I think it’s great that you’re willing to share your emotions like this. The fact that someone left a comment like that is disgusting, but that doesn’t affect the fact that Operation Chocolate-Covered Kindness is a wonderful idea and you’re a fantastic blogger.

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